first kiss

[Isabelle]

So I've been reading this thread off an on feeling embarressed at myself, but then I thought what does it matter anyhow. I'll input my two cents now...

I'll 18 soon as well, and to this day I have not had a kiss nor have I had a boyfriend, and I have to say that I am rather proud of myself. I think in some way, I feel stronger as a woman to resist (if that's the right word) something that isn't my top priority. I'm not saying that having a boyfriend or being kissed is a time-wasting activity, because it isn't, but for me it's lower on the totem pole so to speak as I have too many other things to worry about.

Truth be told, I am actually afraid of guys. Not my friends who I know are *normal*, but all the jocks and the like. Guys who are just looking to inflate their egos a little more are, too me anyhow, a big turn-off. It can also be a bit scary because I've had a few guys who have stalked me, in school, and it totally freaked me out. I stood up to one, and he cowered away from me, so that me feel better, since I am not the most forward person in the world.

Sharing your first kiss with someone you liked at one point will always have special spot within you and I think that is one of the most beautiful feelings a person can have. Whoever you share that first intimate bond with will always stay with you. When you think about it, that's an awesome revelation.

I was talking with my work supervisor (a professed religious) a few weeks ago and she got the wheels in my mind turning. She was telling me about her first love before she became a nun. She explained to me that she believed this boy she loved was her soulmate, as was her mother and her close friends. In her mindset, you can have more than one soulmate, as a soulmate to her is that special someone you share a unique bond with whether it be platonic or romantic. The eloquence and simplicity of the tought had such a profound effect on me that i came to the conclusion that I'm going to wait until I feel ready to share myself with someone I care for deeply.

So maybe this was more than two cents...but it's my thoughts. I'm looking forward to the day when I'll find my own "soulmate."

Liz

[emeraldeyes]

Isabelle, that was a really, really great response; I adored it.
I think what your work supervisor said is true, about having more than one soulmate, because the definition of "soulmate" is someone who basically touches your inner most self, not just the guy (or girl) you belong with for the rest of your life.
I... Don't really know what else to say, other than that was really nice. Thank you for sharing that; it really is making me think.

[crystalpheonixeyes]

I have to agree with Emeraldeyes. It really makes you think. I kinda feel the same way about being stonger and "resisting" but sometime I think about my friends who had ther first real kiss when they were in 7th grade, and I am like, "Wow I am such a loser" I guess that I don't really want a boyfriend at this point, becuase I need to figure out what I want to do with my life. I already found my 'Soulmate' my best friend Sergio. He means everything to me. I really don't know what I would do with out him.

Thanks for posting that. I am really glad that you added you two cents.

[mmadlyinlove]

Yeah, I felt like a loser too cuz I didn't get my first kiss till I was eighteen either and I haven't had a bf since he and I broke up. So now I feel like an even bigger loser. LOL! It's been a year, I've come to grips with it. ~mmadlyinlove~

[ιady ταвz]

i know...im 16 and im still waiting..*sigh*

[childminerva]

I'm 18...I figure it will happen eventually and when it does it should be because I like the guy and not because I just want my first kiss.

[ιady ταвz]

exactly..alot of my friends were with losers

[DaBao]

I have yet to have a first kiss, actually... I'm a bit afraid of guys in general.
I've only kissed family members and that was on the cheeck. I was taught that boys were bad and that I should avoid all men until I'm in college, I know a bit better now but up until roughly middle school I didn't have many friends that were boys. I've never had a boyfriend either, but that I'm okay with. I still have many years to have boyfriends, and am currently happy the way I am.
I can also credit that I seem to be oblivious to flirting as a fact I don't have a boyfriend or kissed anyone. Everyone tells me I'm oblivious, and I think I should start to pay closer attention.

[Apocalypticat]

I'm also not too sure of guys. I go to a girl's school, which doesn't help.
*sigh* My first kiss was from a guy I thought I loved, for I had never felt anything of the sort before. Before that, I was a tomboy, and was beginning to doubt if I was really female at all until I developed a crush. I was 17 then and I'm 17 now. As everyone who read my thread knows (), it didn't work out. I wish I'd waited until I was sure, but I was feeling really needy at the time, and the guy in question was the first person to show an interest in me (apart from this 18 year-old from when I was 14, which scared the hell out of me).

In some ways, I hated the feelings that came with it. I thought it was normal at the time to feel as though I'd been humbled, but I now know that it was because my boyfriend was very controlling.

Part of it is that I'm alright on my own. I have so much to do without having a bf!

[Tabby67]

wow... Isabelle, lovely story, andyour supervisour is most definately right. You can have more than one soulmate. I know I have three that I'm aware of at the present moment. My two best friends, whom could be more wonderful for me, love them to death, and my boyfriend, whom I do believe I truely love.

My first kiss was sadly wasted on my very odd and perverted cousin 4 years ago, but I didn't exactally count that, as it was forced upon me and wel absolutely terrible. My second, however, was much more lovely. (I do believe I've already stated the story, so no need to bore you with it again )

Mkay, well there's my thoughts on the current posts.

[MinnieQuill]

I kind of agree with the more than one soul mate thing. My ex-boyfriend and I were fairly...hot and heavy for two and half years but before that we'd been inseperable for about four years (best friends) and now we're back to the platonic inseperable. I still occassionally crash at his place, and he at mine, and he's one of my first port of calls if things get bad at home (he's picked me up at midnight etc.) It's a bit wierd I guess, but I wouldn't change the two-and-a-half years, but I wouldn't trade our current situation either.
I'd say that I still love him, just not the same way as before, but not any less. Does that make ANY sense?

[Leaves of Green]

It's good that you guys still have the platonic thing going. I now have my first BF. (I'll be 14 in march.) We've been inseperable since 3rd grade, until I moved to GA from NY. In Sept./Oct., after sending him song lyrics and telling him I was crazy about him, He told me he loved me. It's kinda hard beeing over a 1,000 miles from each other. Though I'm moving back in summer. We haven't kissed yet. (Due to the distance apart right now.) But I'm pretty sure that will come this summer. I've been kinda freaking over it... Nervous and such. Really because I have no idea what I'm doing. The closest thing to kissing for me is reading it in ff and romance novels...

[MinnieQuill]

Trust me on this, it comes naturally. lol
And for some random news...*drum roll* My ex and I are back on! lol

[Leaves of Green]

Wow! Congrats on that one!

[amandahleigh]

the sad thing about kissing is once you've shared a first kiss with someone you know it's right with, then you do the whole fall-in-hopeless-love thing, and you get your heart broken, you can never have that first wonderful kiss again (at least not in my experience/belief). So, to all the girls lamenting having not been kissed yet, enjoy it when it happens, and don't rush into it. that would be my advice. and don't worry if it's awkward or terrible or you just don't feel any chemistry, because eventually you will and you'll know when it happens, and it will be awesome beyond awesomeness.

*mwah*