Divorce?

[Virtuoso]

Just sort of curious as to how many of you grew up living with a single parent after a divorce. If you did, how did it affect you in the long run, if at all? Did they divorce because of a specific incident, like abuse, or just irreconcilable differences?

I'm sixteen, now, and my parents separated when I was five, divorced at seven. My father was abusive both to my mother and both of us girls, and he still mentally abuses us regularly over the phone by guilting us into doing things. He still tries to convince my sister and I that the divorce is our fault.

Technically I'm still supposed to be going with him every other weekend, but I stopped that around the age of ten or eleven, because he was still hitting me regularly. My mother turned him in for abuse more than once, but he has low friends in high places and always manages to get off the charges.

It pretty much sucks, but at least he's in Mississippi doing construction work for the moment.

[emeraldeyes]

-blinks- I never knew...

Wow...

No divorces over here. An aunt and uncle pending, mayhap, as this is their second or third seperation in under a year... But no divorces.

...My mother did almost end up marrying a distant cousin from Canada though... But never mind that.

Good thread

[Virtuoso]

This is why my mother initially suggested that I start Taekwondo.

Unfortunately, since I haven't had time to go at all in the past year, my temper's been growing worse. The whole incident with James at districts was just one of several instances where I couldn't control myself when I got angry. If he hadn't touched me, I'd have been fine... but still, that's no excuse.

It disturbs me to realize that every time I find myself incapable of holding it in, I'm acting more and more like my dad, but that's quite enough of my dysfunctional family moping.

[alison]

My parents separated when I was six and divorced when I was eight. Mum stayed in London; my dad moved to California. So...yeah, it kind of sucked. Custody arangements were that we were to spend the academic year with my mum, minus holidays, and the summer with my dad. My two younger brothers and I grew up in two continents with parents who, to this day, have not spoken more than perhaps sixty words to the other since the custody hearings. At my commencement, they sat on opposite ends of the auditorium and wouldn't speak or come near each other. Doesn't hold a candle to your troubles, though. I am sorry to hear what you've been through. Divorce is wretched for all involved, especially the children.

[beMMADfabulous]

I don't really wanna get too deep in this conversation (not open on a post like this, at least), but my biological father and my mother divorced when I was three. If you wanna know more, PM me.

[angeldust]

I'm sorry to here about what you've been through Virtuoso no one should every have to deal with such things.
No divorces here but I was raised by a single parent form the age of 5 if the effects of that interest you feel free to PM me.

[minniebumblebee]

Hi my parents where off and on for several years when they finally divorced, i was about 12. She (that is to say my mum) still loved him. For what I haven't the slightest clue. They moved back together when I was still 12, seperated still 12. Then they made plans to get together when I was 13, they had a baby! (only good thing that came out of their relationship) I'm still stuck in the pit of all this on and off... gets rather boring really. Oh and this man is my step father... for more info PM me.

[Tabby67]

I'm sorry for all of yall who've gone through that. i haven't had that happen in my family. The only bad thing in my life that happened is that I was born out of wedlock. (The grandparents didn't like that.) I had some issues with them, which I'm not drawing out on a publuc thread. PM me if you want to know more.

~Branda~