HELP!!

[nicolerose]

Hey guys. So the guy I like asked me out last night... i was so cute. lol. But I found some stuff out about him, that kinda makes me upset. But I talked to him about it... but it still made me sad.
He did some stuff with one of my friend a few weeks ago... and I was upset... But I know that he wouldnt do anything while we are going out.
Im not the kind of girl that will do that kinda stuff... But I hope I still make him happy. I dont do anything... lol. maybe kiss a little.. but other then that it would be so wried...

Do you think that its ok that we are gong out after he did that??

OH! I also didnt find out until like 20 mins after we started going out. so yeah. idk. I just want some advice... My best friend is out of town.. so I need some advice!!

[crystalpheonixeyes]

I really don't know. Personally I would not, just because you don't kow what he could pull. Ya Know? It'd trully your decision. Do you think he is worth it? You could always give it a try. If it dosen't work out.... them well it dosen't.

Sorry if that dosen't help. Good Luck though!

[EloquentPhoenix]

Well. It's not like he did anything wrong if he and your friend were both single at the time. And if you really like him, you might regret it fi you don't go for it. I'm sure you'll make him happy, he asked you out afterall.

[nicolerose]

yeah.. but the thing is, he is way more fisical then I want to be. He is willing to go really far, when all i will do is a kiss. so idk. we are gong out right now. but i am having a funny fealing

[beMMADfabulous]

If you're having a funny feeling, then I'd definatly give this relationship a second thought. Is this something you really want/need or might it turn for the worse?

[nicolerose]

well we talked about it, and im going to give it a chance. i dont so much have a funny feeling when i think about being with him, but a funny feeling when i think about not being with him. or being with him and he gets bored. but i dont think that will happen. I am a pretty up beet person so it will be fun. but he knows that if he cheats on me things are over. but i dont think he will. i will let you know that happeneds

[osusprinks]

Just don't do anything you aren't ready for. It sounds like you have a pretty good idea what you are willing to do and what you aren't. Stand firm. If he doesn't respect you for that, it isn't worth it in the long run! Good luck. and have fun!

[nicolerose]

AHH! guys my friend is making this really difficut. but im not really helping the situation eather. ok so she is getting really pissed at me that we are goig out. and im not going to break up with him over this at all. but there was a b-day party tonight and i was there a little later cuz its my sisters b-day too. welll when I got there she was all of a sudden really pissed and stuff. she really hated that i was there. and i was chilling with my guy and all that stuff. well later she got up and left. but told some people she would be back later. so i decided that i didnt want to be the person that kept her form having fun, so i left too. and when iwas leaving i saw her come back. (just so you know shes like kinda person that cuts herself when things dont go her way) and she is always mad at me now cuz we are going out. so i left, but i really didnt want to. i wanted to spend time with him and everyone else. and we werent like unsepterable. we would chill with our other friends. but idk, she really doesnt want us together.

im thinking that next time i am just going to say tough... what do you guys think??

[EloquentPhoenix]

She's really selfish and an absolutely awful friend (sorry). He likes you, that's not your fault, and it's difficult enough between you and this guy anyway. It's not you making it difficult at all. Next time be tough. I appreciate how difficult it is if your friend self-harms, but she needs to grow up and start realising that her supportive friends i.e. you, matter more. She's no right to be pissed at you.

*Hugs*

Sorry if that sounded very mean on your friend but friends like that frustrate me, because friends aren't meant to be selfish.

[nicolerose]

Yeah its fine. I know that she is selfish... and its partly my fault cuz i keep giving her what she wants cuz i hate seeing her unhappy. but i think that i am just going to say taugh. she is being a real bi**h (im not sure if we can say that on here) lol. so idk. she will learn to deal. but until then i have all my other friends. they tend to help me a little more. besides last night, they were all being kinda bi**hy to me. well thanx!!!

[MrCoolio]

[shadow=red,left,300][glow=red,2,300]who's more important to you. the guy or your friend? it all depends on that, just imagine it the other way around. would you be mad or would it not matter as much. is she overreacting? sorry if i sound like a psychiatrist. but i would usually put friends before girls.(me being a guy that is. lol.)[/glow][/shadow]

[osusprinks]

I would guess (with knowing so little of the situation) that she is jealous with what is going on between you and your boyfriend. It's good that you realize her feelings aren't your responsibility. I would probably talk to your other friends if they are "being kinda bi**hy" though and find out what is going on. I would have to agree somewhat with tabbytha. I hope you can all work things out.