I am in love with a man 23 years my senior. He is the same age as my mother. She doesn't like that i am with him. She says he is totally robbing the cradle. I have known him since i was 15 but did not start a romantic relationship with him till i was of age. We have always been close, he was my high school soccer coach. He has proposed to me and i said yes. I love this man with all my heart and would do anything for him and i know the feelings are mutual. I feel that society will deeply frown on us but i dony care as long as i get to return to that mans arms at night. I will face the world for this man if it came to that. I would die for him if it meant that he would never have to face the questions about our relationship because i know that he will face many. Even though i do don't care what people think about my relationship i turn to you guys for your opinion. So please be honest with me and tell me what you think. Even if you don't agree with it and you agree with my mother tell Me. I am a big girl i can handle it. But please i would really appreciate your honest opinion.
Post by Phantomgirl817 on Jun 21, 2010 15:02:02 GMT -5
I would agree with you...love is love reguardless of age. I don't think it is right for people to be judged because of who they love, who they are, what they do, what they like, and etc.
I'm not in this situation, but I know people who are. People at my high school gives this girl a hard time because shes is 17 and loves someone who is 24. She even had a child with him, but she truely loves him, and they are both happy. So I totally agree with you.
Post by sylvadragon on Jul 15, 2010 7:38:10 GMT -5
My first response was, Aww that's so Albus and Minerva. I guess your mother is trying to look out for you but I think true love knows no boundaries. So I wish you both happiness together, I think once people see how happy you are with him that hopefully they will accept your relationship.
Post by madditmcgranitt on Jul 21, 2010 4:01:39 GMT -5
mah I understand the discomfort of your mother, it is normal for her to care for your happiness. However I understand you too ... you're living a dream. Please Forgive me but I did not understand ... he asked you to marry him and you accepted? (I'm not native English speakers and I could have misunderstood). I think you should wait, this is not because of the age difference between you two, but for your age. For twenty years, in my humble opinion, marriage is too demanding. Why not talk to your man and maybe try first with a living (they say so? I mean to live together without being married). I am aware that I can seem trivial and perhaps even cynical, but my experience has taught me that at your age is too young and too enamored of the concept of love to make binding decisions. Now you're just a projection of the person who you will become in five or in ten years. You are (and in many ways even I, who have 26 years) at a stage of evolution. Of course you can say that many people get married at your age. It is different to marry so young with a boy the same age, in which case they grow together and their ambitions are the same, the needs are the same. I hope to not having annoyed with my speech. Get all this for what is, it is the advice of a stranger. I wish good luck to you.
The darkest places in hell are reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of moral crisis. Dante Alighieri
There really is nobody else who can tell you how to feel. If you love this man and you are sure he loves you, than nobody should stop you no matter the age difference. Besides what does age really tell about people. Theres no guarantee what so ever some relationships fail and some last for life, as far as I know age difference is just a small factor. My parents are together for nearly forty years now, my mother being 11 years younger and dad was her teacher once. They seem fairly happy. While I broke up with my sons father after seven years, he is 4 month older than me. Both my sisters (26) are married to men that are at least 14 years their major and it works. There is just one thing I wouldn't do right now and thats marrying. Stay together, move in together (if you didn't already) and face what is to come. Take it as a rehearsal of some kind.
I can understand your mother's point too... She's just trying to look out for you...
I don't think the age difference between your man and yourself is a trouble... after all, love knows no boundaries... The only advice I could give you would be to wait a little before marrying, that is to say not to marry too rapidly. I know 2 people who have married not long ago and they're young and they rushed into this... well, we all just have this strange bad feeling about this... I just hope for you that when you'll marry him it will work and be great and all and all... ^^
Anyway, it's YOUR life, do what YOU want of it ^^
Good Luck/Best Wishes/...
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Post by bestwishes4Maggie! on Aug 11, 2010 2:05:45 GMT -5
Age is but a number, everyone breaths the air around us, but all we really have to do is make sure that everything in our life will take our breath away as much as possible. So be happy that you have found someone you love and make sure you take for granted the time that you are near to one another. There will be tough times, happy times, and serendipitous times. At the moment you have all, but the latter is what makes it exciting and invigorating. It's what we want and love to have, and being that way with someone that loves you and you them tells you that this is something you can't turn you back on, now or ever. Remember forever that age is but a number, age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter. ~Athena xoxo, best of luck!
P.S. Here is a quote on time and age...
Father Time is not always a hard parent, and, though he tarries for none of his children, often lays his hand lightly upon those who have used him well; making them old men and women inexorably enough, but leaving their hearts and spirits young and in full vigour. With such people the grey head is but the impression of the old fellow's hand in giving them his blessing, and every wrinkle but a notch in the quiet calendar of a well-spent life. ~Charles Dickens
I really hope Maggie is doing well and is very happy! I wish you all a great Winter. I hope luck is on your side with your life. ~Thena-Sophi xoxo
In truth from me I say go for it. As I left high school and went to college I met a man twice my age with a son half my age. We had a relationship that lasted for a while till it got him fired from his job and his friends talked him out of it.
So I have no issue with the age difference and say go for it if he makes you happy and you make him happy. In truth you two are the only ones that matter when opinion counts, though society will still try and tell you that its wrong.
I wish you the best of luck & hope that one day your mother will understand ^_^ ~Aly~
'I wonder,' said Professor McGonagall in cold fury, turning on Professor Umbridge, 'how you expect to gain an idea of my usual teaching methods if you continue to interrupt me? You see, I do not generally permit people to talk when I am talking.'
Post by tabbyparisienne on Aug 22, 2010 18:46:54 GMT -5
I don't know you much, but I think you're right. As Best Wishes For Maggie says, age is nothing but a number. I can understand ur mother too, she may think it's the best for you, but, at the end of it all, nobody can choose who she/he fells in love with, can we? So, that's my opinion dear.
I wish you have much happiness with your future husband
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